by Geetika Sodhi Lohan
Split Ends - Relationships in the Virtual World
When I watch couples sharing their activities with their partners(trying to be specific here) with the Virtual World - eating with... Sleeping with...being lazy with...entering xyz with...enjoying with....
I, being one of the mates of a not so bad couple, presume that when half your mind is busy being ANXIOUS about sharing all you do in life, with the world which in reality does not care, you are contributing only half the value of your commitment and dedication to the partner and the relationship which deserves better and more anytime..
Now, this theory of mine splits in to three ends - like lets try to sense all the angles once and for all...
First End is - Both the partners are keen socialites who love to compete and compare with the happenings of like minded people in outside world and race with others' respective shares on their walls. In this case none of the partners complaints nor does any one expect hundred percent dedication. And they sustain happily ever after.
Then there is a couple where one keeps comparing and shouting at the other of NoT Doing Like Others. Now this has two sub groups. The other poor and subtle partner lives with it or the other option being that he or she leaves the crazy socialite who is spoiling a beautiful relationship for Virtualization.
Then there is the last split end in which the socialite compares sees and hates everything about his or her life but due to whatever reasons does not complain to the subtle partner. And then finally Dies one day due to depression leaving behind an unsettled and dissatisfied life and probably a partner who as such was a silent loner because the one who died was Living a virtual life...
Probably there can be other versions but for now this is all I could think of.
Drifting a bit from the partners angle I'll talk of my best friend perhaps my soul friend. She visited my little rented apartment for an overnight stay. So much we had missed talking that we talked all night and despite all the time did not even get the idea of clicking a picture.
I mean you meet after some 8 years and forget to click a pic because you were busy loving the company and the chat.
In my ten years of marriage whenever I board any mode of transport or enter a hotel or travel anywhere...even though I don't have kids...the two of us (me and my mate) are so engulfed into the formalities and then of course each other's company more so the Silence we enjoy together that not even once does it come to my mind that there is an account I have on some site or for that matter even a relative or a friend I should seek in my phone. I perhaps often forget to recharge my phone.
Don't know whether am impatient with the Virtual World or may be simply too committed to my relationship to discard from the amazing moments and think about a dumb World Web which holds no meaning.
For the people unlike me all I want to ask is...when times will need a partner will the virtual world step forward...and when you do not give your hundred percent to moments which deserve your love and attention because half your conscious and almost all your subconscious is too busy dreaming about the mystique which is befooling the entire era, are you actually serious towards the claims you make of owning the relationship and being in Love..
Room for thought...***